What to Do When You Hate Your Job But Can’t Find a New One

What to Do When You Hate Your Job But Can’t Find a New One

You’re torn…

On the one hand, you hate your job so much that the thought of deliberately breaking one of your fingers just to take a couple of days off feels eerily compelling.

On the flip side, you can’t leave yourself incomeless – you have rent to make, bills to pay, mouths to feed, and toilet paper to buy.

That being said, the only scenario in which you’d leave your current job is if you had another one lined up.

However, you’re facing a problem.

For some reason, you can’t find a new job.

The good news is that there’s always a light at the end of the tunnel…

Truth is that I’ve personally been exactly where you are.

And I’ve felt as trapped, helpless, and frustrated as you’re feeling right now…

However, I did manage to find my way out, and I’m here to let you know exactly how you can do it as well!

First things first…



Isolate The Problem

The first and most important step towards figuring out what to do when you hate your job but can’t find a new one is to isolate the problem.

Most of the time, someone’s inability to land a new job boils down to consistently making one or more of the 8 following mistakes:

  1. Not Applying to Enough Jobs
  2. Having a Bad Resume
  3. Applying for Jobs They Don’t Qualify For
  4. Poor Job Interview Skills
  5. Being Way Too Picky
  6. Giving Up Too Easily
  7. Blaming Everything to Others
  8. Constantly Making Excuses

Let’s dig a little bit deeper.


1. Not Applying to Enough Jobs

Over the last couple of years, I’ve heard the statement “I hate my job but I can’t find a new one” more times than I can count.

After examining closer, the vast majority of those who made such a statement had one thing in common…

They weren’t applying for enough jobs.

According to Zety, an average job offer attracts 250 applicants, out of which only 4-6 will be interviewed and only one will actually get the job.

This means that your chances of getting a job you applied for are 1 in 250, or else 0.4%.

That being said, the more jobs you apply for, the higher your chances of coming across an employer that’s willing to hire you.

Since the number of available jobs differs from industry to industry, there’s really no magic number as to how many jobs you should be applying for.

Nonetheless, if you are serious about replacing your current job with a new one anytime soon, you have to act BIG.

Try to devote at least one hour per day to your job hunt during which you apply to as many potentially desirable jobs that you qualify for as possible.

The bigger you act, the sooner you’ll manage to kiss that current job you despise goodbye.

Now, if you’ve sent a significant amount of applications to numerous potential employers but none of them has called you for a first interview, then chances are that you either have a poor resume, or you keep applying to jobs you don’t qualify for.


2. Having a Bad Resume

Every potential employer’s first impression of you is formed solely based on what they see on your resume…

As a matter of fact, according to a study conducted by Ladders in 2018, recruiters determine whether they’ll be calling someone for an interview or not in less than 7.4 seconds after looking at their resume.

That being said, if your resume doesn’t make a very good impression within just a few seconds, it’ll probably end up in the shredder.

Some of the most prominent signs of poor resumes are:

  • long paragraphs
  • spelling & grammar mistakes
  • too colorful
  • too long
  • confusing flow
  • and bad formatting

If despite having applied to numerous job positions you’ve received very little or no calls for scheduling an interview, then you definitely need to invest some time and energy in improving the quality of your CV.

To do that you could consult a couple of online guides that walk you through the process of building a decent resume.

You could also hire a career counselor to help you put your resume together, but this can be quite costly.

Or, you could utilize an online resume builder such as LiveCareer, Zety, Resume.io, ResumeBuild, and NovoResume.

Improving your CV could significantly increase the rate at which your job applications turn into actual interviews.


3. Applying for Jobs You Don't Qualify For

Another reason that you don’t get called for job interviews might be because you keep applying to jobs you aren’t qualified for.

Yes, the job with that higher salary or in that other field which you think you’ll enjoy more or that’s closer to your house might seem way more appealing…

Unfortunately, if you don’t possess the necessary skills to actually do a job, recruiters will keep rejecting you as soon as they lay their eyes on your resume.

That’s absolutely normal.

No recruiter will ever bother interviewing someone who’s clearly unqualified for a job while they could just as easily interview one of the dozens of other applicants who actually qualify.

Think about it…

If you needed to hire a salesman for your business, would you waste your time interviewing someone with no college education who had been working as a truck driver for the last ten years?

Likewise, if you were in need of a truck driver would you bother interviewing someone with an MBA in sales that had no driver’s license?

I don’t think so…

That being said, as long as you keep applying to jobs you don’t qualify for, the odds of landing a new one will definitely be stacked against you.

Thankfully, countering that problem is very simple – just start applying only to jobs you qualify for.

If you’d like to start going after better offers that you’re not currently qualified for, then you’ll have to invest time, energy, and probably even money in improving the required skillset.

To do that, you might have to go back to school, take offline or online classes, attend seminars and webinars, get certified, do a couple of unpaid internships, and most importantly, leverage the vast amounts of free information there’s on the internet.


4. Poor Job Interview Skills

If you get called for job interviews by a significant number of potential employers but none of them is actually hiring you, chances are that you don’t make such a good impression to your interviewers.

Maybe you’re either not dressed well enough or overdressed… Maybe you are just talking way too much about completely irrelevant stuff.

Maybe you lack enthusiasm or you might keep emphasizing how much you hate your current job.

Whatever the case, messing up your job interview is a surefire recipe for not getting the job.

Employers might end up interviewing dozens of applicants for a particular position and the vast majority of the time, they’ll weed out without a second thought anyone that left them with a poor impression during their interview.

Thankfully, with a little practice, you can potentially sharpen and improve your interview skills and performance.

Right below you can take a look at a bunch of useful resources that could help you understand where your job interviews might be going wrong as well as how to correct it:

Or you could hire a career coach to fully guide you through the interview process and provide you with valuable feedback that you could utilize to boost your confidence and overall performance.


5. Being Way Too Picky

Another thing that might be standing in your way of landing a new job is that you’re being overly picky.

Jumping into the first job that comes in your way is definitely not a solid course of action

Ending up in the wrong job could negatively affect every single aspect of your life, waste your time and energy, as well as isolate you from other more desirable opportunities.

On the other hand, rejecting every single job you’ve applied to due to superficial reasons is a surefire recipe to remaining stuck with your current employer for the years to come.

While working a job I hated, I had attended more interviews than I could count.

Dozens of those interviews ended up converting into job offers, most of which were actually more than decent.

However, I kept rejecting one after another due to being way too picky about everything, from the “inconvenient” working hours and the long distance to the building’s color, the smell of the sidewalk, the manager’s “crazy” hair, and the office’s lighting.

The result?

I spent 2 whole years until I accepted a job I thought would be “perfect” for me, only to end up hating it as well a couple of months in.

Sad…

In retrospect, being too picky was just another excuse to avoid taking action due to fear of jumping from a job I was familiar with to another job I knew nothing about.

In conclusion, a healthy amount of pickiness regarding the job offers you accept is essential to ensuring that you won’t end up in yet another job that makes you miserable.

However, waiting in perpetuity for the “perfect” job that might or might not show up is a perfect waste of time.

No matter how deep you dig, it’s nearly impossible to be 100% sure about whether you’re going to enjoy a job before working there for a while.

So, what might seem like your perfect job might turn out to be a colossal disappointment.


6. Giving Up Too Easily

Job hunting is by no means a walk in the park…

Conducting it in your spare time after having spent 8+ hours on a job you hate makes the process 10x harder.

On top of that, spending weeks or even months perfecting your resume, customizing cover letters, and attending dozens of job interviews with absolutely nothing to show for it can be extremely tiring, frustrating, and discouraging.

However, throwing in the towel is a course of action that’s extremely unlikely to improve the quality of your professional life in any way.

That being said, if your job hunt has burned you out, putting it on hold for a few days is so much better than assuming defeat, calling it quits, and just settling for that job that makes you miserable for the years to come.

This will allow you to clear your head and recharge your batteries so that you can start tackling the process of finding a new, better job with much more energy and enthusiasm.


7. Blaming Everything to Others

All too often, people tend to blame their inability to land a new job on the area or the country they live in, the economy, the government, the job market, the global warming, etc, etc.

That’s because shifting the blame for any given unfavorable situation onto someone/something else is the perfect way to abdicate responsibility and avoid spending time and energy reflecting on where you went wrong and taking the necessary steps to fix it.

While blaming others is a great way to protect your ego and feel good in the short-term, at the end of the day, the only person that’s going to keep being troubled by the problems that remain unresolved as a result of such behavior is YOU!

That being said, if you sincerely want to find a job that you’ll enjoy more than your current one, you must start assuming responsibility for being unable to find one even if it’s not your fault.

This small mental shift is going to give you the green light to self-reflect, recognize and accept your flaws, learn from your mistakes, become more receptive to solutions that could improve your situation, take action, and ultimately regain control of your reality.


8. Constantly Making Excuses

Whoever is good at making excuses is rarely good at anything else. – Benjamin Franklin

Another type of behavior that could be holding you back from finding a job to replace your current one is constantly making excuses…

While statements such as “I’m too old” or “I don’t have time” or “There are no jobs” might sound like perfectly acceptable reasons for staying put, I assure you that they’re just masterfully engineered justifications used to rationalize inaction.

Most excuses are simply lies wrapped up as reasons to cover up the fact that you either want to avoid doing something or that you’re just afraid of trying and failing. – success.com

Truth is that one of the hardest challenges of achieving anything of substance is overcoming our own bullshit excuses.

However, as one of my favorite motivational speakers Jim Rohn once said:

If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.

The video right below perfectly sums up my last 3 points so make sure to give it a watch till its very end.



Consider Alternatives

While landing a new job might seem like the only option towards leaving your current one, there are actually quite a few alternative courses of action that can be equally valid, including:

  • Starting a Side Hustle
  • Dealing With Your Job Another Way
  • Quitting Without Having Anything Lined Up
  • Going Part-Time
  • Requesting a Transfer
  • and Reframing Your Perspective



1. Start a Side Hustle

Over the last few years, the number of people who partake in side hustling has increased exponentially…

According to a survey conducted by Bankrate in 2019, over 43% of full-time employees in the US are currently running a side hustle.

That’s probably because side hustling offers numerous benefits that are hard to pass up…

First of all, side hustling gives you the option to make extra money in your spare time by pursuing something you’re interested in or passionate about without sacrificing the security of your full-time job.

For instance, if you love practicing Yoga, you could get certified and work as a part-time Yoga instructor.

Likewise, if you’re passionate about web design, you could start offering your services as a freelancer on a part-time basis.

However, one of the most alluring aspects of side hustling is that it could potentially turn into a full-time gig you love.

Tons of currently successful entrepreneurs had started their businesses as a “passion project” on the side of their full-time jobs.


2. Deal With Your Job Another Way

Quitting is not the only way of dealing with the job you hate…

As a matter of fact, there are at least 3 more ways that you could leverage towards making your job much more tolerable without actually quitting it, such as:

  • Persistence
  • Neglect
  • and Voice

Persistence means grinding your teeth and just sticking through your job.

This course of action could be perfect if your company is about to undergo an organizational shift that could potentially put you out of your misery or if you’re expecting to be transferred and/or promoted to another more desirable position.

Neglect entails staying in your current job in a state of complete emotional detachment.

For instance, you could start tuning down your pace and performance or maybe even doing the bare minimum just to not get fired.

Voice involves actively voicing your concerns regarding your job to your manager, boss, or the HR department of your company and asking them to help you figure out ways to improve the situation.

If you’d like to find out more about dealing with your job without quitting, I suggest that you take a look at my article 4 Ways To Deal With A Job You Hate Like A Pro.


3. Quit Without Having Anything Lined Up

Common opinion dictates that quitting a job without having anything lined up is a “bad” choice.

That’s mostly because it is widely believed that “finding a new job while unemployed is nearly impossible”.

While it’s true that hiring managers could be negatively biased towards unemployed people, according to BusinessNewsDaily, feeling the stigma of unemployment actually increases the chances of finding a new job as it motivates people to invest more time and effort in their job search.

That being said, quitting your job without having anything lined up could be considered a perfectly valid course of action, especially if you find yourself being in one or more of the following situations:

I know that just jumping out of your job might not be such a realistic option for some, especially those who are the breadwinners of their family, or are in debt, or have way too many financial obligations.

On the other hand, if you have no mouths to feed and minimal financial obligations, distancing yourself from the workforce for a while could prove to be highly beneficial for your wellbeing.

About 2 years ago, I quit a job due to being completely burned out without having anything else lined up. No job, no income, no idea how things would turn out, nothing…

In the hindsight, leaving myself unemployed for a while not only was much less scary than I initially imagined, but it was probably one of the best decisions I could have made at that time.


4. Go Part-Time

Another thing that could enormously improve your situation without sacrificing the security of your current job is requesting a decrease in your work schedule from full-time to part-time.

Cutting your working hours in half can make your job ten times more tolerable as well as free up significant amounts of time and energy that you can invest in resting, doing things you love, being with your family, and even job hunting.

If you decide to go down that path, I suggest that you consider downgrading and simplifying your lifestyle for a while by cutting back as many expenses and financial obligations as you possibly can, such as

  • constantly buying random crap you don’t need
  • ordering takeout on a daily basis
  • and going out for drinks every single weekend

Small sacrifices for a short period of time could eventually make a big difference in your quality of life. – MoneyCrashers

In addition, before making the shift, consider saving up some money.

Sometimes life happens so having a cushion handy will make you feel safer, more comfortable, and more confident in your decisions.


5. Request a Transfer

If the reason you hate your job is your daily duties, or your manager, or a specific co-worker, but you’d like to stay with your current employer, requesting to be transferred to another department might perfectly solve your problem without having to quit your job.

Start by having a conversation with your manager or the HR department.

Let them know about your issues with your current position in a professional manner and ask if you could potentially get transferred to another department.

Avoid complaining and venting at all costs.

Lastly, if your manager/HR department agrees that a transfer could indeed take place, it might be a good idea to put down a formal written job transfer request letter.

This article lays down the step-by-step process for requesting a transfer within your company the right way.


6. Reframe Your Perspective

Last but not least, reframing how you perceive your job could also be a great way of successfully dealing with it without quitting.

For instance, you could start being thankful about all the positive aspects of your job such as the benefits, the security, those tasks you actually enjoy, that funny coworker, the fact that you have money to spend on the things you like, etc.

Sometimes, people tend to put way too much emphasis on the negative aspects of a situation while taking all its positive ones for granted.

In addition, consider that everything in this world is temporary.

Your job isn’t going to last for all eternity, and neither will your feelings towards it. I can personally vouch for that.

Furthermore, a job you hate could be the perfect way of identifying workplace features to avoid in future jobs as well as what you’d like your “dream job” to consist of.

Moreover, try to look at your job as an opportunity that equips you with the skills to cope with other unfavorable situations that might come your way at some point in the future.

Sooner or later, everyone finds themselves in situations they’d rather not be in, whether they want it or not…

Lastly, working out, meditating, being in nature, spending time with your loved ones, and generally doing things you love outside your job could help you alleviate its adverse effects.

Please note that reframing your perspective shouldn’t be used as an excuse to abstain from taking action but rather in conjunction with taking action towards figuring out an actual solution to your problem.

For instance, you could start being thankful about your job while at the same time maintaining your job hunt or growing your side hustle.



Conclusion

Landing a brand new job is definitely not a piece of cake, especially when your job hunt takes place during that spare time you’d otherwise use to unwind after having worked at a job you hate for 8+ hours.

However, if you start tackling the process mindfully and patiently while leaving all your fears and excuses behind, it won’t be long before you kiss that job you hate goodbye.

In addition, don’t forget to consider your alternatives…

Finding another job is definitely not your only way out.

You could start a side hustle around one of your passions that might eventually render your current income completely unnecessary or just quit without having anything else lined up.

If for any reason, quitting doesn’t feel like a realistic option, you can always stay at your current job and figure out how you could deal with it another way.

One thing is for sure…

If you truly want to resolve your situation, your options are abundant.

 

  • How long have you been job hunting without any luck?
  • What mistake(s) do you think are holding you back?
  • Have you considered any alternatives?

Let us know all about your experience in the comment section below.

If you have any questions or need any further help or guidance, I encourage you to reach out to me at xaric@dearboss-iquit.com

I’ll be more than happy to help you out.

All the best,

Xaric,
dearboss-iquit.com

This Post Has 40 Comments

  1. Kiz

    You assume many people can afford a job that is half their current salary which is what the majority of jobs I see are. You also assume that its easy to leave a niche job and walk into anything. Again not everyone can afford to retrain.

    1. Xaric

      Hi Kiz.

      I’m sorry that you didn’t find what you’re looking for here…

      Unfortunately, I can’t address every single setback that might be holding every single person on Earth back from quitting their job.

      Everything written in this article is just a reflection of my very own experience with working and quitting a job I hated so it’s impossible for my advice to be one-size-fits-all…

      I have never suggested that anyone should take a job that pays half their current salary.

      So please don’t put words in my mouth.

      I’ve also never suggested that it’s easy to leave any job… I specifically mentioned in my article that it took me 2 years of consistent effort (job hunting, attending interviews, getting rejected, passing job offers, etc) until I managed to escape from the job I hated.

      The whole process was actually one of the hardest and most arduous ones I’ve ever gone through.

      If you’d like to receive advice tailored to your own situation, you can email me at xaric@dearboss-iquit.com

      I’d love to help you out!

      Best regards,

      Xaric

  2. LynMc

    Xaric, I liked your post for a couple of reasons. First, you are clear in what you are saying, what I call no “fluff”. Your reader should be able to see your message clearly. I was in a job I disliked immensely and my older sister sat me down and basically said “do what you have to do to make your life better”. I began my college journey at 41 years old and in a few years found my dream job.

    Secondly, you laid out some good choices for those that want their circumstances to change, yet do not take action steps to bring the needed changes to fruition. Some may not like the direct suggestions offered, yet I believe they will stay in the back of their minds.

    This blog can apply to people of all ages. I wouldn’t be surprised to see not only individuals, but teachers and parents wanting to share these words of wisdom.

    1. Xaric

      Thanks so much for sharing your story with us… Hats off to your older sister for pushing you to improve your life… Hats off to you as well that you had the guts to make such an enormous change for the better in your life at that age and that you managed to finally land your dream job as well. In my eyes, you are an utter success!

      Thank you so much for your kind and motivation words… I am trying my best to serve solutions through my own experience to all those who are working jobs they hate because I know how awful it is to get stuck in one.

      My best wishes to you 🙂

      Xaric

  3. Charles Fisk

    This is a very interesting concept. If you have a job then I can see how you can sometimes hate it. But, if on other hand you have a career then you absolutely would love it because you would be doing your passion in life. I can’t say I have never quit a job, but I stuck with my career and retired from it after 26 plus years and sometimes I miss it.  

    Overall this is an excellent article. However, you could tone down the foul language a bit, because it is unprofessional and can be offensive to others. Besides that it is a very informative article.

    1. Xaric

      The number of people who are working jobs they hate is constantly rising as years pass… Having a career doesn’t necessarily mean that you love what you do, even if at some point you actually used to love it.

      I have talked with dozens of people who started a career assuming they’d love it only to end up hating it a few years later.

      Thanks a lot for your feedback on my “foul” language… I am not a professional career coach and I am not trying to be one here… This is just a blog whereas I am sharing my thoughts with the world… And among my thoughts, there happens to exist a little profanity here and there just to spice things up a little.

      As far as those who are offended by it are concerned, the one who is actually guilty will always get defensive 😉

      My best regards,

      Xaric

  4. shirian

    Apparently, when you hate your job quitting it and then applying to other jobs is no big deal.

    In reality, when you have financial obligations and no other options at hand, you will hesitate to make the decision and quit your job. However, when you feel confident and you have enough skill and previous experience chances are that you’ll be employed again in no time.

    And you are right! When it comes to job interviews, obviously confidence, appearance and knowing how to express oneself are important things.

    ~Shirian

    1. Xaric

      I don’t really believe that it would be wise for someone who has trouble finding another job while working at one to quit their job before actually finding a new one.

      This will make the situation much harder, the stress levels are going to increase, they will seem desperate during their interviews and they might end up taking a job which would be as bad or even worse than the one they quit.

      Obviously, this article is addressed to those who are not able to confidently find a job whenever they might need it.

      My regards,

      Xaric

  5. R.J.

    Hey Xaric, that was an awesome read. 

    I can relate to everything in it.

    No one wants to keep jumping from job to job and getting nowhere so I believe that it would be much easier to earn your living another way, maybe start a business or freelancing or something… 

    I am currently trying to figure out my course of action…

    1. Xaric

      I am glad you liked it… But not all people are destined to build businesses and become freelancers… The majority of people will still prefer having a “stable” job over devoting huge chunks of their time and effort into building a business or having to go after clients to make ends meet as freelancers.

      Are you currently working a job or not? What’s a draft of your course of action until now?

  6. Twack Romero

    Finally and article with some teeth and that tells it like it is. I’m vicariously responding to this article on behalf of my third born. Now, I love him and that’s unconditional but he needs to read this and watch those videos because they might just get the “veil of I can’t” lifted from his eyes. His two older brothers must have swallowed a different book as they ‘eat’ jobs like they’ve not eaten in months. You’re right about the excuses, so very true. I’ve never been bothered by them losing their jobs or just leaving because usually within a week or two they’re starting another one. 

    If you can’t find a job that needs your skill set then either retrain or start any job at the bottom and work your way up. I’ve done that more times than I care to mention. Employers will see potential though, even if it’s just from you knocking on the bosses door and saying ‘What’s next ?’ rather than finishing what you’re doing and sneaking around the back for a sit-down. Sometimes you just have to get out there and make it happen like you said there’s plenty of other candidates that are vying for the same position.

    1. Xaric

      I am glad that you found this valuable Twack. I can sense that you must be a great parent. Being open-minded about the lives that your kids live must not be an easy task. Unfortunately, my parents are not that way. They get stressed a lot about my financial future even if I am not stressed about it and then I get stressed about the fact that my parents got stressed because of me. 

      But I’ve found a solution to that. I simply don’t let them know anything about my employment status anymore. They are much better off staying in the dark than burdening themselves with my own choices. And now, I can also make choices which are in favor of my well-being without thinking that I might let them down. 

      I can’t even imagine how depressed they would be if they found out that I quit my last job without having anything lined up.

      Anyway, you are absolutely right that employers appreciate an attitude of “I’ll deal with any kind of task you give me in the best possible way”. This is the attitude of a go-getter and employers love those kinds of people.

      Thanks for taking the time to read this and drop a comment.

      Xaric

  7. AmDetermined

    Regarding your question when I was looking for a job it took me 2 years to find one because most mistakes that you listed in your post is what I kept unknowingly doing.

    The most common mistake I did is that I used to aim for jobs that were more than my qualification. Also, I didn’t apply for enough jobs and I was constantly complaining.

    Although now I am not looking for a job because I have started my online business with Wealthy Affiliate just like you, I think anyone who has trouble finding a job could use your tips to make corrections so that they can find that job much faster.

    1. Xaric

      Thanks for sharing your experience and story with us!

      I hope that everything unfolds as you wish with your online business and Wealthy Affiliate.

      My best to you,

      Xaric

  8. Robert

    I really used to enjoy the job prior to the one I have now. They say if you enjoy your job you will most likely be more productive. I liked my previous job so much that I stayed there for 20+ years. But too much of a good thing can get you burnt out after a while.

    I was fortunate to know about a local transportation job that was hiring and thought that driving people around would be a much easier job. I will get to meet people and see new areas of my state. But my hours are long, I do not feel that safe when going into rundown urban areas, and in my state (NJ), lunch breaks are not required for anyone over 18.

    I am now looking for a new job because I cannot take all of this work with no breaks five days a week. I really like your suggestion of starting a side hustle. I think something online would be a great place to start. I realize it takes time to get an income to replace the one I have now. Do you think I can achieve that within 2 years if I work a few hours building it every day?

    1. Xaric

      Yeah, I’ve heard of people leaving jobs they enjoyed for some reason… I guess, the grass always seems greener on the other side?

      Are you serious about the lunch breaks? I literally can’t keep myself focused on my work if my stomach is empty…

      To answer your question, it really depends on the side hustle, your work ethic, the time you devote, etc. No one could possibly tell you if you will be able to earn a full-time living through your side hustle in less than 2 years from now.

      It could be a possibility but it mainly depends on you.

      Freelancing is one of the fastest ways to earn money online… If you have a skill that is in demand online (web design, writing, SEO, video editing, etc), then you might be able to make some money faster than let’s say starting a dropshipping or an affiliate marketing business of your own.

      I think that you might find my article 15 Ways To Replace Your Income In Order To Quit Your Job In 2019 helpful…

      Hopefully, this helps you out!

      Xaric

  9. DerrAd

    I was at the brick of job hunting after my first degree before I had an internship opportunity leading to employment. I was very excited to have skipped that experience of job hunt although it’s worth it in sharing with the young ones. Few months into the internship, I felt like the company wasn’t the right place for me to stay but it was hard to be blunt with my Supervisor. 

    All that while the management was planning an interview to cement my position in the company but I wasn’t decided within myself. While thinking of how to turn down the offer, nature presented itself the right moment where I had admission to further my education. Since then, I decided to search for ways to make money online and not find myself in that position again. 

    However, thanks for the insights you provided through your article.  

    1. Xaric

      That’s an awesome story there DerrAd… 

      Thanks a lot for sharing and I hope that you manage to figure out your way to earning your living online.

      My best wishes, 

      Xaric

  10. Jordan

    Great article, I like how you emphasise that a person has to take responsibility for why they’re not able to find a new job that they like. 

    One other thing I would add is the importance of networking. 

    Most jobs are landed through some sort of connection, whether it’s a former colleague, a co-worker’s sibling, a neighbour’s college roommate, etc. 

    Networking expands the possibilities and reach of any job search.  But, it’s important not to just run and ask your contacts for help when you’re desperate – you have to cultivate and maintain connections with people (and look for ways you can add value for them) as part of your regular routine, so they’re more inclined to want to help you if you ever need it.  Give to receive, as they say.

    Anyway, I enjoyed reading this, thank you.

    1. Xaric

      Awesome advice Jordan. 

      In fact, maintaining an expanded but healthy network of people could help you advance in a lot of aspects of your life. But you have to be proactive… You have to keep cultivating it like a fruit-garden. Because if you don’t, when the time comes that you need the fruit, there will be none because everything will be withered.

      I know of people who are great at networking and opportunities seems to pop up out of nowhere for them. I am a terrible networker possibly due to being introverted… But nonetheless, I made it out of a job I hated 🙂

      Thanks a lot for the advice! I am sure that many people might find it extremely valuable!

      My best regards,

      Xaric

  11. Jay

    Reading this it has made me realize that I need to update my resume. I have applied for several jobs and I have not gotten a phone call from most of them. I have not really thought of my resume as the problem but it seems I really do need to update it. There is something about sending out resumes and not getting called for interviews. It leaves a sought of bad feeling in my tummy that I am probably not good enough.

    1. Xaric

      You ARE good enough Jay! Your resume might not be 😛

      I absolutely understand that it’s extremely frustrating to keep sending resumes and not getting called for any interviews whatsoever. I’ve been through this exact same feeling infinite times, especially when I first started looking for another job but you have to get past that if you want to make things work for you.

      Rejection is part of the game. It isn’t game over. It’s just a sign that you need to improve upon something in order to get the job you want.

      Start with your resume… Once I upgraded my resume, everything changed for me. I was actually stunned that so many people wanted to see me in person. After a couple of months I was convinced that I was good enough to get most of the jobs I wanted.

      Now, I am working part-time at a job I love which has nothing to do with what I had studied in college and nothing to do with my previous work experience. To tell you the truth, I landed it solely based on knowing how to sell myself through my resume and during the interview as well as having acquired the necessary skills for the job through online trainings, no certifications or anything.

      I am currently there part-time because my employer wanted to “test drive” me before hiring me full-time. I am doing pretty good until now and I think I am going to make it 🙂

      And all of that happened because I had faith that I could make it, and I never gave up even when my faith was being shaken.

      I hope this helps!

      Xaric

  12. RoDarrick

    Wow! This is a very interesting article and surely, it’s of great benefit to me.

    I quit my job some months back and it is becoming too difficult to get another one…

    Things are getting really out of hand right now because I’m running pretty low on cash these days. I think I need to pay more attention to the tips you have given here. Seriously, I never bothered to pay attention to things like resume and not applying to enough jobs.

    This is rather new to me.

    1. Xaric

      Hey Ro,

      I totally understand… Since you don’t have a job right now you’ve got all the free time to do what’s necessary to get one, even a much better that your previous one.

      The internet is your best friend right now… Go online and find all the information you require to improve your resume.

      When you are done upgrading it, start applying to job openings non-stop. In the meantime, find tips to improve your job interview skills and be prepared for when potential employers call you to meet up with them.

      When they are out of a job, many people tend to lose their will to take action and procrastinate. Maybe it’s because they see it as a chance to rest for a while!?

      Just so you know, there are other ways to earn a full-time living besides working a normal job. Maybe you should start considering trying out one of them.

      If you require any further help, please don’t hesitate to leave another comment.

      My best wishes,

      Xaric

  13. Gomer

    Have you been to the Philippines? 

    I wonder why people here love their jobs so much, even the more senior ones, they seem like never getting tired working for a company or the government. 

    When I tried convincing some of the folks here to quit their jobs, they laughed at me and thought I’m crazy. But then, being a person who’s oriented with what’s happening in the West particularly in the U.S. where a lot of people want to quit their jobs, I stick to this belief of looking for freedom by starting a part-time business.

    Soon, when the time comes that the income I’m generating from my part-time business supersedes my salary, then that’s the time to consider quitting my job.

    1. Xaric

      Nope, I have never been to the Philippines and I didn’t really know that people there love their jobs so much…

      Working your current job in order to have a steady salary until you are making enough money to cover your needs through your business is a smart move.

      This was my initial plan as well but I ended up quitting my last job without having anything else lined up and without earning a full-time income through my business just yet…

      Now all my time goes into growing my online business and I can actually see it improving day in and day out…

      Hopefully, everything will work out for both of us 🙂

      My best to you,

      Xaric

  14. Henderson

    Like you, I am having a side hustle and I plan to quit my current job when I make enough money through it to pay my bills. 

    People want to quit their jobs for different reasons, for me, it’s because I’m not getting enough I want to myself and I know working from home will help me regulate that. 

    1. Xaric

      Thanks for sharing!

      I didn’t really get what you mean by “not getting enough I want to myself” but I hope that you achieve all the goals you are after.

      Xaric

  15. Chris

    I believe that there are many mistakes that are holding me back when it comes to looking for, and finding a new job at the moment…but one stands out above the rest – I have a habit for going for jobs I am not qualified enough for, as I believe that I can nail the position. 

    There’s nothing wrong with self confidence – but there is a tipping point, and I go over this more often than not. How would you suggest keeping your self confidence, and being realistic at the same time?

    1. Xaric

      Well, realistic is very subjective as you can never know what an employer is going to be looking for in a potential employee. 

      During my time, I have been offered several jobs which I barely qualified for because my interviews went great… I was friendly, I had a very confident vibe, and I always showed everyone that even if I didn’t know how to do something I would be thrilled to learn how to do it.

      So, basically, even if you don’t qualify for a job per se, the potential employer might see things in you and your character which make you the ideal candidate for the job. 

      However, if you want to increase your chances of finding another job faster, you should either try applying to jobs you qualify for or expand your skillset (attend classes, seminars, certifications, etc) until you qualify for the jobs you want to go after.

      There’s indeed nothing wrong with self-confidence but if at the same time there’s no self-awareness, you might end up being delusional…

      You might be very confident that you can beat Usain Bolt in 100 meters but that doesn’t mean that you will actually beat him even if you go against him 1000 times in a row.

  16. Feochadan

    I just LOVE your no-BS writing style.  AWESOME!  Yes, the only one holding yourself back from getting a new job (or improving the one you have) is YOU!!

    One thing I might add to your interview skills section is to research the company that you are wanting to work for prior to the interview.  If you spend the whole time yammering about what YOU want, it gives the potential employer no idea that you know anything about his/her company and what they NEED!   Also, leave your negativity at the door.  When asked that all too usual question about why you want to leave your job, do NOT bad-mouth the company, boss, coworkers, etc.  After all, the potential employer is then going to believe (and probably rightly so) that if you don’t work out with this new company, you’ll probably do the same to them.

    I love the smooth transition you are making from your “side-hustle” into full-time online with your business!

    1. Xaric

      Dear Feochadan, 

      I am 100% sure that many people will find the interview tips that you provided very useful. In fact, I am thinking about including your comment as a quote within the article. I’ll see how I will manage to do that.

      My transition from side-hustle to full-time online is not as smooth as it seems… The journey is arduous, full of potholes, ups and downs, failures, and frustrations… But this is what somebody has to go through to become a successful entrepreneur.

      And to tell you the truth, I love the process as well as the subject I am writing about.

      Thank you for your kind words about my writing style! I am was never the kind of guy who sugarcoats the pill…

      Xaric

  17. Riaz Shah

    Well said Xaric,

    I think applying for jobs every day would be best because even if we apply a lot, it’s the nature of corporate companies to linger because they can. I used to wait for this one company for 2 months only to get rejected and they never even bothered to tell me nor pick up my calls until I went to their office to ask. Know our worth, just apply for as many jobs as we can and take the fastest company that would accept us 😀

    1. Xaric

      This is a great insight Riaz!

      Thank you for sharing your job-hunting experience with us as well!

      Xaric

  18. Mariana

    Hi Xaric!

    I think many can relate to your post. However, I have to disagree with you, some people cannot find a job because of the country’s economic situation. 

    In my country, the unemployment rate has increased severely and it is not just because people are lazy to look for a job, taking into account that working is their only source of money. And maybe some people wouldn’t risk their jobs to have to live that kind of situation, where you cannot even cover yours and your family’s basic needs. 

    Besides all of these, I think the reasons you wrote about can apply for some people, especially the ones about having a bad resume. Many people don’t know how to make a good resume, or sometimes they don’t double-check everything’s ok, so this may be, in my opinion, one of the most common reasons why someone can’t find another job.

    Best, Mariana 

    1. Xaric

      Marianna, the country I live in is going through a very severe economic and political crisis since 2008… Jobs are indeed hardER to find but hard doesn’t mean impossible.

      And yes people are too lazy to look for a job… When someone tells me that there are no jobs when he hasn’t even looked for one for 10 years, he is indeed lazy! When someone tells me that they can’t find another job and they keep passing job interviews to go home and watch TV or go out for drinks, they are indeed lazy.

      The one thing I know is that if you really want to improve a bad situation you’ll do whatever it takes to improve it. If your country is in a bad state, it might take longer and you might need to work harder until you land that new job… So what? Isn’t being happier with what you do for a living worth all the trouble?

      I am telling you all that because I have friends who were supposed to hate their job, they constantly complained about it but when the time came to start looking for a job, they went to 2 interviews, gave up, and then kept telling other people that they weren’t able to find another job… This isn’t what looking for a job looks like… This is what mocking yourself and those around you looks like.

      Lastly, the fact that a person isn’t willing to take a risk for the sake of improving their situation has nothing to do with not being able to find a new job. In fact, it’s just another excuse to stay put because they are too afraid.

      The best things in life exist outside of our comfort zones.

      I would absolutely love to see a reply from you! I love those kinds of conversations 🙂

  19. Aabidah Ahmed

    I honestly hated my full-time job, because I worked long hours and was always exhausted at night. I never had time for my husband, until I quit my full-time job to build my own business online.

    I tried to find jobs that require fewer hours of work, but I never qualified for most of them just as you mentioned. That’s just how it works if you have to work for someone else.

    So I’d rather become my own boss.

    1. Xaric

      I couldn’t agree more with you… When you work for someone else you are at their mercy, you don’t call the shots, you are not in control of your own life.

      I’m working towards becoming my own boss as well right now and despite being hard as hell, I truly believe that the end result is going to worth all the time and energy I’ve invested.

      Working for yourself is the only way to ensure that you are not going to hate what you do for a living.

  20. Jordan Smith

    Thanks for this post. I hated a job that I had for almost 4 years and got stuck through it because I had to. 

    I happened to be the breadwinner of my family at that time and when you are counted on, you make due. 

    Currently I’m  looking for a passive income (that can help me save a good amount of money to quit my current job) and this post came at the right time. I might have to quit my job sooner than later (though it’s not as bad as the first I had).

    1. Xaric

      Well, when your family counts on you, things are somewhat more complicated. Thankfully, no one counts on me besides myself.

      Nonetheless, making a living isn’t tied with working a job you hate. You can earn your living just as easily by doing something you don’t hate or even better, something you enjoy.

      You said that you hated a job that you had for almost 4 years… Why did you stick with it so long? As it seems you were perfectly able to earn your living by working another job which based on what you said is not as bad as the first one…

      Excuses maybe?? 😛

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