Hating a job is absolutely normal…
Most adults who have been active in the workforce for a few years will have inevitably stumbled upon a job which they hated for some reason…
On the other hand, there are those people who have grown to hate every single job they’ve worked so far which frankly, is a whole other story…
You could easily say “Well, all jobs suck!” or “My boss was a jerk” or “My colleagues were talking about me behind my back” but blaming others for what’s going wrong in your job-life is probably an unhealthy and counterproductive reaction…
You see, If you’ve worked 5 jobs and you hated just one of them, then chances are that there was something about that job you hated which indeed sucked. But, if you’ve worked 5 jobs and you hated every single one of them, chances are YOU are doing something wrong…
Some of the most prominent reasons that you might be hating all the jobs you’ve ever worked are
- Looking For Happiness in the Wrong Place
- You Don’t Know What You Want
- You’re in the Wrong Career
- 9-5 is NOT for You
- You Don’t Know What Else to Do
- You Haven’t Experimented Enough
- You are Preoccupied
- You Have Other Dreams
Let’s dig deeper, shall we?
Why Do I Hate Every Job I Get? 8 Surprising Reasons!
1 • Looking For Happiness in the Wrong Place
Very often, people grow to hate their job because they believed that what this job offered them would make them happy when it’s clearly not…
Maybe you went for a profession simply because it pays well, or because your parents kept pushing you towards it since you were young, or because it’s got prestige or fame or whatever…
However, going after prestige, money, or satisfying your parents is definitely not the path which leads to being happy with what you do for a living.
For instance, throughout my life, my mother kept insisting that the secret to being happy at work is to find a steady office job.
She didn’t push me towards a specific career but she definitely impressed upon me that an office job was all I needed to become truly happy job-wise… And I truly believed her!
A few years ago, the combination of my mother’s conditioning, as well as a high wage, was the reason that I ended up taking an office job which was the worst job I have ever worked until now…
My mother and father were happy, the job paid me a very nice salary which allowed me to live a pretty comfortable lifestyle, renting a nice apartment, maintaining my car, going out for drinks, etc but for the 2 years I lasted on that office job which was supposed to make me truly happy, I was the most miserable I have ever been in my entire life…
The takeaway here is that working a job just because it pays well, or just because it is prestigious, or basically due to any other reason rather than just enjoying working it will probably result in you being so miserable that you won’t be able to tell if you are still alive or if you died and went to hell…
2 • You Don’t Know What You Want
If you don’t know towards where you want to go, it’s impossible to ever get there…
One of the main reasons people hate all the jobs they work is because they blindly jump from job to job without knowing what kind of job they would really enjoy doing.
Keep in mind that you can make money working any job but the jobs which at the same time have the potential to really fulfill you can be counted with the fingers of just one palm.
According to my favorite philosopher, Alan Watts, if you don’t know what you really want to do in life, you are either already doing it, or you don’t really know yourself.
I believe that for most people, the latter is true.
If this is the case with you too, then you have some work to do with yourself because if you don’t, unless you manage to land a job you actually enjoy out of pure luck, you’ll probably keep jumping from jobs you hate to other jobs you hate until you retire or until you die, whichever comes first…
3 • You’re in the Wrong Career
Sometimes, there is nothing really wrong with your boss or the company or your colleagues… Obviously, no job is perfect but if all the jobs you’ve hated so far are in the same field, then chances are that your problems don’t really stem from the job itself but rather from the work.
By the term “job” I am talking about the whole package – the boss, the commute, your colleagues, your desk, your clients, etc… On the other hand, “work” is the actual duties and tasks that you have to fulfill while at your job.
You can hate one or more aspects of a job but not your work… For instance, you might enjoy web design (which is your work) but hate the fact that your boss is trying to micromanage every single aspect of your projects (job). In that case, working for someone else in the same field could probably solve your problem.
On the other hand, your boss might be fine, your job close to your house, your salary pretty high, your benefits awesome but despite all that, you still you can’t seem to be able to stop hating your duties, your daily tasks, your projects, etc.
I have worked a job exactly like that. It was in a large international company… Every single aspect of the company, the boss, the coworkers, the pay, the benefits, the bonuses were all dreamy! BUT, I held a position as a customer service advisor which I hated to the very depths of my soul. Working as a customer service advisor at another firm wouldn’t solve my problem. I needed a career change… To work on another field…
If this is the case with you, if you hate your work then going from job to job is not going to solve your problem either.
What you have to do is consider a career change!
There’s not a single reason that I can think of to keep wasting your borrowed time doing work you really hate.
4 • 9-5 is NOT for You
You can’t fit every single person into the same box.
Some people are destined to work normal day jobs while others are not.
For example, an old colleague of mine from the customer service job I truly hated, was claiming that she loved the job and that she would never want to work anywhere else. The weirdest thing is that she had some job offers from other companies to work on the field she had studied in college but she just wouldn’t leave.
On the other hand, there are people who will just never become truly happy working any normal 9-5 job no matter how good that job is. I am one of those people… I am introverted which means that being around people for a long time depletes my energy, I am creative and active, routine is killing me, and I really hate following orders and being told what I should do.
Some of you might argue that all people “have” to work normal jobs… Well, I beg to differ.
There have to be people who create art, work as freelancers, become writers, actors, turn into monks, etc. There also have to be people who build and run businesses. If all people had to work normal jobs there would be no one to build businesses and thus normal jobs wouldn’t exist in the first place.
Tesla, Einstein, Elon Musk, Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Warren Buffet, Mark Zuckerberg and dozens of other successful businessmen, inventors, innovators, entrepreneurs, and people who are changing the shape of the world, in general, are usually people who would be miserable working normal jobs not to mention highly unemployable.
If you keep hating every single job you get, maybe you are not meant to work one. Maybe you are meant for bigger things. Maybe you are meant to be one of those people who’ll shape the world somehow.
Not everyone is destined to work a normal job and maybe neither are you.
5 • You Don’t Know What Else to Do
As a person providing career advice through my blog, I’ve naturally interacted with dozens of people who are working jobs they hate.
When I ask them “Why don’t you try finding a better job?”, one of the most common answers I get is “Because I don’t really know what else I could possibly do”.
While finding out the kind of job that you would be passionate about is probably the key to everlasting job fulfillment, there seems to be a common limiting belief among people that “I’ll either be working a job I hate” or “I’ll find a job that I truly love”…
However, this is not the case at all!
Just like between scolding hot and freezing cold water, between working a job you hate and working a job you love, there are millions of other options… There’s the option of working a job you hate less and then the option of working a job towards which you’ll be indifferent and the job you’ll barely like and the job you’ll enjoy, etc.
For instance, I have worked a job which I neither hated nor loved, and I was pretty happy with it. In fact, now that I think about it, it was probably the best normal job I’ve ever had up until this point!
What I am trying to say here is that instead of feeling helpless and frozen because you think that you should jump from a job you hate right into a job you love, going after jobs which you won’t hate might probably be the best solution to your problem, at least until you figure out what kind of job you would really love! Stop going for perfect… Go for progress!
The good news is that since you’ve already worked some jobs you hated, you should really be aware of what characteristics of a job make you miserable in order to avoid them.
If not, sit down and figure them out ASAP.
Don’t let all those years working jobs you hated to go to waste. Take advantage of the feedback you’ve gathered through those jobs in order to figure out exactly what you want and what you don’t want from a job. For instance, I know that I’ll probably hate every single job which has anything to do with customer support and call centers…
Once you’ve figured out exactly which were the aspects and characteristics of your previous jobs that you hated so much, start looking for jobs which lack them…
If you have the slightest suspicion that you are going to hate a job, then don’t apply to it. If you became suspicious after going through an interview, then don’t take it.
Be patient, keep looking and who knows… Maybe your next job is going to be a job you actually like…
6 • You Haven’t Experimented Enough
Only a handful of people are lucky enough to know which job they would love to be working for the rest of their lives since they were kids…
The rest of us, have to keep putting ourselves through a process of trial and error until we gain enough experience to understand which kinds of jobs we like and which kinds of jobs we don’t like.
Unfortunately, there’s no way around to ending up working a job which truly satisfies you…
Think about it…
Before coming across your favorite food, you had inevitably eaten foods which you liked a lot, foods you barely liked, foods that you liked but you weren’t crazy about, and foods which disgusted you so much that you wouldn’t put them in your mouth ever again…
Same goes with drinks, partners, material things, clothes, hairstyles, friends, movies, music, etc.
Basically, who you are now, is the result of you perpetually experimenting with stuff.
Why not do the exact same thing with your job? Why should a job be something that we keep doing for years even if we hate it since day one? Would you keep eating food that makes you sick for 2 years before saying “enough” and attempting to try something else? I don’t think so…
If you don’t know what job you’d like to do for the rest of your life, you’ll have to actually experiment with as many jobs as you possibly can.
Go for jobs in various fields, in large companies, in small family businesses, near your house, far from your house, office jobs, outdoors jobs, etc, etc.
Yes, this takes time! And yes, it will be harder to keep adjusting to working different jobs and constantly learning new skills and practices and procedures than just going for jobs you already know how to do.
But if you have no clue about what job you’d like to do for the rest of your life, this might be your only way to finally finding out!
7 • You are Preoccupied
Just because you’ve worked a couple of jobs you hated, doesn’t really mean that you will never be able to work a job which you’ll not hate…
I’ve heard people saying “all jobs are equally bad”…
No, they are not!
I’ve worked jobs I hated… I’ve worked jobs I that liked and I’ve worked jobs about which I didn’t give the slightest fuck…
Every job is different… No job is perfect… And every job has its pros and cons…
Assuming that you’ll hate all jobs just because you happened to hate a couple of them in the past can only set you up for disaster… You see, if you believe that you’ll hate a job before you even get it, chances are that once you get it you’ll end up hating it.
This is called confirmation bias and it basically means that your experiences will tend to unfold based on your beliefs about them just to confirm to yourself you were right.
If you believe you can, you’ll probably do it! If you believe you can’t, you’ll probably fail! – Henry Ford
So, instead of hating jobs before you even start looking for them, just try to keep an open mind because if not, you might end up hating a job that you could potentially enjoy if only you didn’t believe that you’d hate it in the first place!
8 • You Have Other Dreams
The main reason that I’ve grown to hate and quit 2 jobs during the last 2 years is that I am building a dream of my own (this website) and both those jobs were holding my dream back one way or another…
My first job was in a call center of a large international company… I had to deal with hundreds of angry customers a day which was something that was leaving me with no energy to do anything else during my day including working on my online business…
The second job had way too much overtime, most of which went unpaid. I was basically working 10-hour days 5 days a week… In addition, I needed one hour to get to work and more than 1 hour to return from work. This means that I spent at least 12 hours of my days just on work-related stuff which left me little to no time at all to work on my online business.
I know that until my online business brings in a full-time income for me, I will have to work other normal jobs in order to be able to cover my monthly expenses. However, I will definitely not let any job stand between me and my dream.
If it does, I quit it. End of story…
After all, if you don’t go after and build your dream, you’ll always have to work for someone to help them build theirs…
If you’ve hated every single job you have worked then the problem is probably you and not the jobs themselves…
Maybe you thought that making more money is the way to happiness and you keep taking jobs only because they are offering you higher salaries… Maybe you are in the wrong career or maybe you just can’t thrive in an environment where you have to keep following orders… Maybe you are destined to quit all jobs forever and become your own boss!
Whatever the case, if you want to end up making your living by doing something that truly satisfies you or at least finally find a job that you won’t grow to hate, you have work to do with yourself!
How many jobs you hated have you worked? What were the main reasons that you hated them? Have you managed to find a job you don’t hate yet?
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