Why are you here?
You hate your job…
But you don’t want to quit…
Why bother going online looking for a solution to a problem that you don’t even want to solve in the first place?
Maybe you want confirmation that staying in a job you hate is not a stupid idea (which it is, but more on that later on) in order to avoid having to do something about it.
Or maybe you do want to determine a way to counter your bad situation without leaving your job.
After all, hating your job is no fun place to be so if you don’t want to quit it, well, you have to do something to improve your circumstances right?
But what could you do?
Before going into that in more detail, let me tell you that there exist a lot of ways to deal with a job you hate, but for me, the only “true” way is to quit it. We roam on this earth for a certain amount of years. An average person will spend 93000 hours at work over their lifetime. That’s almost 11 years. Fuck!
I don’t want to waste 11 years of my life working a job I hate! Do you?
Sometimes quitting your job right away might be the best choice. I’ve heard and read stories about people thriving after quitting the job they hated cold-turkey. Most of them claim that it was one of the best decisions they ever made and wish that they had done it sooner. Unfortunately, you can only know that if you take the plunge, not beforehand.
That’s why most people prefer keeping their job until they find a way to first replace their income. In theory, this way is safer but takes some more time. Also, it’s less stressful because you won’t have to worry when and from where your next paycheck is going to come.
You are not here to quit the job you hate but to determine what you could do to improve your situation without quitting right?
Read on then!
What to Do if You Hate Your Job But Don’t Want to Quit
1 • Figure Out Why You Hate Your Job
There can be numerous reasons for someone to hate a job. Some of them could be legit while others bullshit.
Nevertheless finding out the exact ones could absolutely help you counter your situation without requiring you to leave your job.
For instance, if you are facing problems with your coworkers (bullying, discrimination, etc) maybe you should talk to your supervisor, the HR department or even the CEO of your company. If you hate your current position and there exist other positions in your current company which you believe might fulfill you more, maybe you could ask for a transfer to another division. Same goes if you are facing problems with your direct supervisor. If you believe that you are underpaid, you might as well go ahead and ask for a raise.
On the other hand, if the situation is out of your control and you can’t really do anything to change it, you could always attempt to change your attitude towards it. Just go there, do your job, and stop giving a fuck about anything and anyone else. Let me tell you that this is no piece of cake though. It is nearly impossible to unhate and tolerate a job that you already hate. I’ve tried it myself without much success.
Other times the problem might not even be the job but you.
For example, if you hate your job because you have to get up at 7:00 am, well, welcome to the real world. You’ll just have to deal with it. Even the most successful entrepreneurs and CEO’s of the world wake up early in the morning, maybe even earlier than you (Apple CEO, Tim Cook wakes up at 3:45 am, Gary Vaynerchuck wakes up at 6:00 am, Elon Musk wakes up at 7:00 am, Jeff Bezos wakes up between 7:00 am and 8:00 am)! Your other options would be to ask your company if you could work an afternoon or night shift (if any available), or find another job tailored to your own needs.
On the other hand, if your job collides with your innermost values and/or your goals and dreams then quitting your job and going after what you want is most likely the sole option for you to be happy. If you don’t go after what you really want you will regret it forever not to mention that you’ll have to keep working a job you hate until you retire… Or until you die… Whichever comes first.
Do you want to travel the world and gather experiences? Go ahead and do it. You could cover your expenses by tapping into your savings or creating your own travel blog. Or maybe freelancing online. Or begging for money in foreign countries.
Do you value having the flexibility and more free time to spend with your family throughout the day? Start working your way towards creating something which will allow you to become your own boss and work on your very own pace and terms. Or find a job with flexible hours which gives you the freedom to work from home.
Lastly, if you hate your job because it negatively affects your overall health, then start seriously considering to leave it. A job which comes at the cost of your very health is way too expensive no matter how much it pays.
2 • Find Out Why You Don’t Want to Quit Your Job
Usually, the reason that people keep working jobs they hate is total bullshitty.
Some of the most common bullshit reasons are:
- Fear of the unknown
- Job Security
- Feeling Comfortable
- Wanting the money
- Peer, parent, or any other kind of social approval
- Believing that things might get better if they just stick it out
If you don’t want to leave your job due to one or more of those reasons then I hate to be the one to break it to you but you are full of crap!
So, let me debunk your excuses really fast.
Fear of the Unknown
Quitting a job is always scary, even if you have something else lined up and everything figured out.
However, do you know what is scarier than quitting? Working a job you hate until you retire… Terrifying.
There’s no job security, period.
According to the US Department of Labor, more than 1.1% of all US employees got laid off every single month during 2018. So, if you believe that your job, your salary, your benefits, your position, etc, are secure, think again. You might as well be the next one.
Yeah, I know that you believe that this would never happen to you right?
This is exactly what two highly-skilled supervisors at my company used to believe. And guess what! They both got fired after 15+ years of service for no reason at all!
There goes your security down the drain.
Sometimes despite hating your job, deep down you like your already established routine. You know where to go, you know what to do, you know the people there, you know what time to get in and what time to get off, etc.
You’ve gotten comfortable.
At that point, wasting your life working a job you hate seems much simpler than looking for a job, going to interviews, getting rejected, etc…
However, the more comfortable you are now in a job you hate the more uncomfortable you are going to feel in the future.
And again, no matter how comfortable you might be feeling right now, you might lose your job in the blink of an eye.
Wanting the Money
Everyone wants money… After all, this is how we buy stuff.
However, your current job is not the only way in the world that could bring in some income.
Truth is, that nowadays earning money is easier than ever before.
The options to replace your current source of income are literally countless with the most simple one, finding another job.
Others options include
- Creating a Youtube channel
- Building a blog
- Selling services
- Flipping items or domain names
You don’t HAVE to work a job you hate to make money… You choose to.
I don’t condemn nor judge you. I want the money as well. I have chosen to not quit the job I hate just yet. But I want to quit it. And that’s why I am spending most of my “free” time developing this website.
Hopefully, it will eventually bring in enough income to enable me to safely quit my job, if, of course, I manage to not end up locked in a mental institution until that time comes.
Please, oh please, don’t tell me that you don’t want to quit a job you hate because you want to fit in the preconceived notions that some people have about you.
Social approval is one of the dumbest reasons to not want to quit your job.
-“My parents will be disappointed”
-“My friends will think that I am weak or a loser”
-“My colleagues will say that I am a quitter”
-“The cashier at the supermarket whose name I don’t even know is going to judge me”
So, you care more about what some people might say and think about you than your own happiness. Sorry but that’s plainly stupid.
Care about other people’s approval, and you will always be their prisoner. – Lao Tzu
My advice? Fuck everyone!
No one else is living your life but you. No one has the right to tell you how to live your life but you.
Don’t try to maintain the status quo at the cost of your happiness. Demolish the status quo even if it costs you some people.
Those who leave weren’t supposed to be on your side in the first place. Those who will remain at your side will most likely stick for a very long time and even forever…
It Might Get Better
It won’t… At least not by itself.
The job you hate is not going to magically turn better. You’re not going to wake up one day and stop hating it (unless you become enlightened).
Not only a bad job is not going to get better but it is highly likely that it’ll become even worse as time passes, either objectively, or inside your mind, unless, of course, you do something to improve the overall situation yourself.
It’s one thing to see the glass half-full and a whole other thing to be delusionally optimistic.
Nothing changes towards the direction that you want unless you do something yourself.
In rare occasions, it might happen, yes, but what are the odds?
Slim to none is the answer.
If you realized that the reason you keep your job is a mockery to yourself and you can’t seem to fix the situation without having to quit it, then you have to
Determine How You Are Going to Quit Your Job
So, as stated earlier, when it comes to quitting your job, you got two options.
You either bite the bullet and quit it cold-turkey or you find another source of income that could enable you to replace your current one.
Quitting Your Job Cold Turkey
Since you are here I don’t think that you are ready to quit your job cold turkey.
To go down that path requires no thought and no research. It just happens. It’s spontaneous. If you stop and try to rationalize it, you’ve already lost it. Your mind will never let you quit your safe job because it’s afraid of the unknown just like we talked about earlier on.
If you get the urge, just go for it!
The decision might either improve or worsen your life but no one, not even you, could possibly predict how things are going to transpire beforehand.
You just jump in with both feet and hope for the best.
Truth is, I’ve heard more stories about people who quit their job cold turkey wishing they’d done it sooner than stories of people regretting such decision.
Replacing your income
On the other hand, quitting your job and leaving yourself without an income could put you under a lot of unnecessary stress and worry about your next paycheck.
Even if you have an amount of money saved up before quitting you’ll know that this money will eventually run out and this could lead to making decisions out of necessity or fear and those decisions are almost never the most beneficial to you.
You might end up taking a job you hate once again, undertake clients or projects that you don’t really want to, employ black-hat strategies towards growing your business which will most probably hurt it in the long-term, etc.
So, if possible, hang in there, while, of course, looking for a way to substitute your current income.
This way you’ll avoid tons of frustration, stress, and fear and you won’t feel under pressure 24/7.
It’s might be wiser to start building another ship, while on your current ship, before jumping ship than jumping shit and have to build your new ship while struggling to stay afloat in the water.
Do What I Did
I don’t want to quit my job either.
I want the money because I live alone, have bills and rent to pay, a car to maintain, have to buy food, clothes, toilet paper, etc.
Sure, I could quit my job, sacrifice all that and move back with my parents for a while until I figure my next move. They would be glad to have me, I think. This way I would be able to kill two birds with just one stone.
- I would rid myself of a job I hated at once
- I wouldn’t be under pressure to make money ASAP in order to survive and maintain my belongings
But this would be my last resort. I don’t want to quit my job and move back with my parents, because, mainly, it would suck!
So, my only two options are
- Deal with my job without having to quit it
- Find a way to replace my current income
Option #1 is not possible for oh so many reasons for me
So, I went for option #2.
But instead of looking for another job that might end up hating once more, I started my own online business, this very website, which will hopefully, eventually, enable me to quit not just this job, but all jobs forever, and work for my own self.
There are ways to deal with the job you hate without quitting sure! But first, you hate to determine why you hate your job in the first place. To solve a problem, you hate to first identify it.
If this doesn’t work, figure out why you don’t want to quit your job. Maybe the reason is just a crappy excuse. If this is the case, then quitting is pretty much the only option left.
Find a way to replace your income before doing that. Try to not quit cold turkey. Unless you believe that the stress of not having a job will be much less than the stress of working your current one.
Do what I did!
So, why do you hate your job? What’s your excuse of not quitting it? Are you going to act to change your situation? How?
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Xaric started his journey to making money online back in 2016. After a lot of trial & error, he managed to build a full-time income online and he is now working from home. He founded dearboss-iquit.com in order to help as many people as possible achieve the exact same thing and he now serves more than 30.000 people per month!
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