There will always be at least one reason for you to keep working a job you hate.
And most of the time, this reason will seem legit… At least in your own mind.
But what if I told you that 99.9% of the reasons that keep you stuck in a job you hate are nothing but bad excuses that you keep repeating inside your head in order to justify not taking action towards improving your situation.
“Why would I do that?”
Well, maybe you are afraid of change… It’s okay, most of us are!
Or maybe, you don’t want to stretch your comfort zone and start looking for better alternatives. After all, you are already pretty tired after working a job you hate that all you want is to get back home, wear your PJs and binge watch all episodes of the latest season of Big Bang Theory. Who has the energy for job hunting or creating a side hustle right?
I absolutely understand.
However, staying in a job you hate for any of those reasons that I am about to list right below, then you are shitting yourself hard and the longer you don’t do something to change your situation, the more the chances of you sticking with this job you hate until you retire…
Or until you die…
Whichever comes first.
And for me, THIS is fucking scary!
11 Bad Reasons To Keep Working A Job You Hate
1 • You Are Making Good Money
It doesn’t matter how well your job pays… If it’s making you miserable, it’s not worth the trouble.
If you are unhappy about your job, then not only the money you earn (and everything you buy with it) won’t change your unhappiness but chances are that the more you stay there the unhappier you’ll become.
I know that you’ve been made to believe otherwise…
Just like I have been.
Two years ago, I decided to take a job that I knew I’d hate because I wanted to be earning more money to move out of my parents’ house and become independent.
Despite ending up renting a very nice, renovated apartment with an amazing view, I had a very hard time enjoying it because to maintain it I had to be miserable for at least 8 hours per day, 5 days a week. Even during my time off work, I was unable to unwind because I couldn’t stop thinking that sooner or later I would have to return back.
On one hand, I was getting more worried, stressed, and miserable by the day. On the other hand, I didn’t want to leave my job because I would also have to leave my apartment and return living with my parents.
According to Inc.com, one of the greatest double-edged swords of high paying corporations is what’s called “living with golden handcuffs”. Your salary is so good that you’re willing to sit in a cubicle hating your life for 8 hours a day, 5 days a week, simply because, on paper, you’re “living the life”. Then, before you know it you got a car payment, high rent, and an expensive lifestyle from which you can’t escape. You want to do something else, but by now you’ve accumulated too much overhead. And a shift in lifestyle is had become unthinkable to you.
In our current world, we are constantly bombarded by messages telling us that money equals happiness. Television, billboards, newspapers, social media, the internet, other people are all screaming at us to get more money.
If you have the money and everything that comes with it, the car, the house, the glorious Friday and Saturday night exits, the latest gadgets, and clothes, etc, you’re supposed to be happy.
But this isn’t the case…
Happiness is a feeling and feelings can never be bought.
On top of that, sacrificing AT LEAST HALF of your waking hours working a job you absolutely despise to get your hands on all those luxuries that supposedly make you happy makes things even worse, especially if your health starts being negatively affected.
“So, what should I do instead?”
You could consider downgrading and simplifying your lifestyle. Cut back as many expenses and financial obligations as you possibly can.
This way you will most likely open yourself up to new opportunities which may pay a lower salary but make you happier (or at least not to want to kill yourself).
If you are living in a house or an apartment with 1 or more rooms that you have never used, move to a smaller, cheaper one. Replace your car with one which is cheaper to maintain and burns less gas per mile. Stop going out for drinks every single day or even every single week. Start cooking at home. And above all, STOP BUYING CRAP THAT YOU DON’T REALLY NEED. And no, you DON’T REALLY NEED the latest iPhone with the new, upgraded, 1 million MP camera which you’ll never use.
Small sacrifices for a short period of time could eventually make a big difference in your quality of life. – MoneyCrashers
Once I downgraded my lifestyle, I realized that I would be able to maintain my apartment and live by myself working part-time at the same job. And so I asked to be demoted. A few months later it happened and now I am wasting only 4 hours per day at a job I hate which frankly makes the whole situation much more tolerable, plus, I now have way more free time and energy to invest in developing my online business and eventually leave my job forever.
However, I have to keep being extremely conscious about where I spend my money on. I am going out about once or twice a month, I rarely eat take-out food, I started using my feet and bicycle much more so I won’t use my car, and above all, I never buy something that I don’t absolutely need. To tell you the truth, I don’t even buy new clothes anymore… I have 7-8 outfits and 2 pairs of shoes which I rotate weekly. That’s all I need. If you think about it, the only difference between having 7 outfits and having 100 is that you have more stuff to wash.
Working a job you loathe and perpetually chasing the dollar will make you far unhappier than wearing secondhand clothes and driving a hooptie. – WiseBread.com
If you want to maintain your lifestyle, this is okay too. You could just start looking for another job, with a similar or even a better salary than your current one. I am 100% sure that your current job isn’t the only job that pays well.
You could also start working on a side hustle such as freelancing or an online business which had the potential to eventually completely replace your current salary.
The possibilities are endless.
Until you come up with a course of action, start saving up as much money as you possibly can from your current job. You never know when you might need it and you’ll most probably will at some point. You’ll also feel safer, more comfortable, and more confident in your decisions if you have a cushion, especially if those decisions include some kind of risk-taking.
As you can see, from any standpoint that could possibly look at it, staying in a job you hate because you are making good money makes no sense whatsoever.
2 • You Don’t Know What Else to Do
This is not a reason to keep working a job you hate. It isn’t even an excuse…
This is pure unwillingness to look beyond what you see right in front of your face.
We are not living in medieval times anymore…
The internet is a huge brain packed with information on every subject that you could possibly imagine. And all this information is literally sitting right on the tips of your fingers.
Take advantage of it an find out what else you could do.
Some of the options that you have right off the top of my head are:
- Building a business, online or offline
- Looking for another job that you hate less
- Finding other ways to make money online
- Going back to school for another degree, certification, etc
- Growing your own food
- Traveling the world while working temp, cheap jobs here and there
- Becoming a monk
Do your research and determine what you really want out of your life in order to avoid drifting towards destinations where you don’t want to be over and over again.
It’s going to take some time to reach a conclusion but the whole process is absolutely worth the whole trouble if there’s even the slightest possibility to free yourself from a job you hate and live a better life.
Here are 5 questions that could help you determine what you really want to do:
- If money wasn’t an issue and you had to be out of your house for 8 hours 5 days a week, what would you do during those hours?
- If you could do any job in the world for one day, which job would that be?
- Have you ever worked a job that you enjoyed? If yes, what did it look like and why did you enjoy it?
- If all jobs paid the same amount of money, what job would you go for?
- If you were to die tomorrow, what would be your biggest regret?
Write those questions down and reflect on them daily until you answer all of them. You HAVE to be absolutely honest with yourself.
3 • You Feel Safe and Secure
Most people won’t stick to a job they hate due to their high salary, but rather due to the safety and security they feel knowing that no matter what, every 15 or 30 days, they will have a certain amount of money deposited right into their bank account.
People love feeling safe and secure. They love it so much that they prefer being miserable and secure than being happy and uncertain.
However, let me tell you something that you’ll be hearing a lot within this blog.
NO JOB IS SECURE! Period.
I know that you believe that you’ll never get fired. This would never happen to you, right?
This is exactly what two highly-skilled supervisors at my company used to believe. And guess what! They both got fired after 15+ years of service for no reason at all!
In fact, more than 1% of US employees are being laid off each month.
And just so you know, studies have proven that hating your job could lead to lack of motivation and decreased performance both of which dramatically increase your chances of getting fired.
There goes your security down the drain.
And getting fired is just one of the very many reasons that you could find yourself jobless.
Other reasons include
- Company going bankrupt
- A robot taking over your position (over the next few years many jobs such as long-haul truck drivers, call center agents, and waiters are going to be taken over by robots)
- Company relocation
- Staff cutbacks
- Company shutting down due to unethical behavior (you never know what is happening behind the scenes)
- Alien invasion (okay this is highly unlikely but it’s still a possibility :P)
So, since no job is secure, why not go and not be secure at a job that you don’t hate to the very depths of your being?
4 • You Don’t Have the Time to Start Looking for a Way Out
Do you have time to watch TV, check your social media, go out for drinks, play video games, stream Netflix, or sleep more than 8 hours a day?
Well, there’s your time!
Instead of wasting it on meaningless activities invest every single available second during your day in improving your situation.
Use your downtime wisely. Whether at home or at work, use downtime to your advantage. My last “corporate” job left me with a lot of free time, which allowed me to start my first blog. This, in turn, allowed me to quit my job and become a freelance writer full-time. Downtime can be a time to relax, but it also might be the only time you have to set up your future plans. Use it wisely. – MoneyCrashers
It’s not about doing more. It’s about making changes to things you’re already doing. – Eugene K. Choi
To change any bad situation for the better you HAVE to keep stepping out of your comfort zone daily.
You’ll never change your life until you start changing your daily routine. – John C. Maxwell
5 • Worrying About What Other People Might Think of You
This could easily be one of the stupidest reasons to keep working a job you hate.
Lao Tzu said that as long as you worry about what other people think of you, you’ll be their prisoner and if caring about other people’s opinions is the reason that you keep staying in a job you hate, well he is absolutely right!
Letting other people’s opinions dictate how you navigate your life leads to failure and unhappiness right off the bat, period.
If your decision-making takes place according to what you believe other people might think of you, you are fucked. And not just when it comes to your job, but in every aspect of your life.
So, you just have to find a way to stop worrying about what other people might think of you.
Here are some tips:
The opinions of others can only affect you if you allow them.
Stop, putting up with being miserable in order to maintain the status quo. Fuck the status quo and go after YOUR happiness.
Nobody is wasting their life working a job they hate but you. You are calling the odds…
Nott John, not Sally, not your parents, not your friends, and not the lady working at the cash register of the supermarket who you will most likely never see again…
You are the one at the sail… You are the master of your sea.
Some of the most talented people end up working jobs they despise simply because they don’t want to disappoint their parents. Or their family. Or their friends. Or anyone else. Who are you living your life for? Them or YOU? – Inc.com
Furthermore, those who judge you negatively probably don’t have the guts to step out of their comfort zone and make their living doing something they enjoy better and they want you by their side… After all, they say that misery loves company.
Once you grow and evolve some of those people will go away making room for other people who click with the new happy you. Some of them will beg you to help them do what you did. Others might cheer for you, and others will most likely not give a single fuck about you quitting your old job or not.
Most of the time, what you think other people think of you, is not what they actually think of you but rather what YOU think of you.
Lastly, famous entrepreneur and influencer Gary Vee says that most people keep working jobs they hate to be able to purchase stuff they don’t need to gain the approval of people they don’t even like.
If you are one of those people just so you know, making less money doing something you don’t hate and having no one’s approval is way better than making good money and having everyone’s approval while being miserable working a job you hate.
6 • Things Will Get Better
No, they won’t…
At least not by themselves.
According to TCMillenial, that’s what people in abusive relationships tell themselves.
It’s one thing to be optimistic and a whole other to be downright delusional.
WiseBread goes on to state that staying in a bad job is akin to staying in a toxic relationship. If your best friend were in a relationship where they were being taken advantage of, mistreated, and unappreciated, you wouldn’t advise them to stay until things get better right? You’d probably encourage them to value themselves and leave ASAP. Well, the same advice is applicable to you remaining in a terrible job, too.
Always know that a bad situation is very unlikely to improve by itself. On the contrary, it might even start getting worse.
Your job is not going to get better just like you cannot get a fit body by sitting on your couch eating crap all day long.
Miracles happen yes! But do you risk waiting for one which will most likely never even happen?
So, you either sit around and pray for that next good thing to come your way or go out and make it come your way. I would go for the latter.
Life is too short to wait around for things to fall into place by themselves.
But come on…
We both know that you don’t really believe things will get better. Even the stones across the street have detected your bullshit.
You are saying that things will get better because you are unwilling to do what’s necessary to change your situation for the better yourself.
So cut the crap, and start doing what’s necessary to better your life or you might find yourself retiring from your job before any change for the better even starts taking place.
7 • You Are Afraid That You Won’t Be Able To Find Another Job
If you are living in a third-world country this could be considered a rational fear.
But still, even if this is the case for you, this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t go out looking for something better.
You don’t have to quit your job right away.
Find a way to replace your income, start acting on it on the side while on your current job, and when you feel ready, go ahead and jump ship.
It’s always better to start building your new ship, while on your current ship, before jumping ship than jumping shit and have to build your new ship while struggling to stay afloat in the water.
Doing nothing to improve your situation because you are afraid of some made-up scenario doesn’t make sense…
Completely wasting your life working a job you hate for 5 more years…
That’s what you should be afraid of.
Also, just so you know, people have a natural tendency to let the fears of a worst-case scenario prevent them from taking action towards the transition they are so desperate for but this worst-case scenario is very unlikely to ever actually happen.
8 • You Have Mouths To Feed
I get it…
If you are your household’s main earner or only earner it must be even harder to leave a job which provides you with a steady paycheck month after month because your family’s survival depends on this very paycheck.
Before I go any further, consider what we talked about earlier on…
No job is secure.
The fact that you have a steady paycheck right now doesn’t mean that this will be the case one week, one month, or one year from now. The job market is an ever-changing beast and you could find yourself jobless in the blink of an eye.
I am not saying that to scare you. It’s the objective truth. I know and I’ve talked with a lot of people who thought their job was secure before they ended up being fired out of nowhere.
Secondly, your family might indeed need your paycheck to survive but it also needs you not to be miserable all around the clock. Your spouse and children would prefer if you had a job that you enjoyed better, so you didn’t come home from work every day drained, stressed, and frustrated, even if that job paid less and you had to downgrade your lifestyle a little.
Also, consider that your children probably perceive you as a role model… What kind of an example do you think you are setting for them if you keep being miserable in a job you hate just for the sake of earning money, using them as an excuse to not do what’s necessary to improve your situation?
A good one?
Your kids may at first balk at canceling cable television. But if little sacrifices like this mean you get your dream job, imagine what they’ll learn from your example and how they might choose to live their own lives. – MoneyCrashers
Stop using your family as an excuse to keep yourself stagnant. It might be hard to improve your bad work situation while thinking that you have a family to support but it’s not impossible.
And just so you know, to be able to take better care of those around you, you have to first take care of your own self.
That’s why during airplane safety instructions they say that if the oxygen masks drop, you should place your own mask on first before assisting your child to place on theirs because if you go the other way, and you pass out, the possibilities of both of you getting hurt increase dramatically.
Your family may need your money but they need you to be happy and healthy way more.
And at the end of the day, nobody told you to go and quit your job right away and leave yourself incomeless.
Start planning your way out during your free time, however little free time you have. And then start acting on your plan ASAP.
Earning your living doing something you don’t hate will absolutely improve the overall health of your household, even if your paycheck gets cut in half.
9 • You Are Working Near Your House
Let me tell you that I’d prefer commuting for 2 hours working a job I like (or don’t hate) than working next door my house doing something I hate.
And I am not just saying that… I have actually experienced both situations, so yeah…
In your face.
And BTW, I didn’t commute those 2 hours by car but rather by a bus which was full most of the time.
Still better than going to a job I hate 5 minutes away from my home by car.
10 • Other Jobs Are Just as Bad
No, they are not…
There are tons of better jobs and companies out there.
But you have to start looking for them. You have to start applying and going to interviews. Chances are that you are going to have to pass dozens of interviews before you find your “perfect” new job.
You are not going to land a better job by sitting on your couch assuming that every single other job is just as bad.
An at the end of the day, if you actually believe this, then you can always do what I am doing… Start developing a business of your own and become your own boss. This way you’ll be able to create your very own “perfect” working conditions yourself.
Finding a new job is not the only option in the world. It’s not “I either work a job I hate” or “I find another job”. There are a lot of other options out there.
11 • Nobody is Chasing You
You got all the time in the world. Nobody is rushing you. You will just stay at your current job a little bit longer. Maybe a few months… Or maybe a year…
In exactly one year from now, you’ll start planning your way out!
However, that’s exactly what you said last year. And chances are that this is exactly what you’ll say next year as well.
In the meantime, the longer you stay in a job you hate, the more it slowly grinds you down, robs you of the energy, optimism, self-confidence, and motivation you need to find something better.
So, there’s no point in waiting. Make sure that you move on while you still can.
Stop procrastinating because you don’t want to take action.
I’ve talked to no people who finally managed to quit crappy jobs only to wish they’d stayed on longer. Most of them wished they’d quit sooner.
At the end of the day, there’s no good reason to keep working a job you hate.
I am not saying that if you hate your job you should quit it right away but you definitely need at least to start looking for alternatives.
Don’t wait for a miracle to happen because it will most likely not.
Let go of all excuses that hold you back because life is to short to spend it doing things you hate.
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