Recent studies and polls have revealed that a whopping 80% of all people hate their job as we speak.
The saddest part is that most of those people can’t seem to be able to quit it. Since you are here, I can only guess that you are one those people.
Just so you know, a few months earlier I was wondering myself the exact same thing… What to do when you hate your job but can’t quit?
After months of pondering, I eventually found a way out and in this article, I am going to let you know all about it.
Before moving on, I want to point out that working a job you hate can negatively affect your health, both physical and mental, in many ways.
This fact alone is enough to leave me no choice but to turn the world upside down until I have quitted such a job. Whatever comes at the cost of my overall health, is way too pricey.
So, back to you!
Why Can’t You Quit Your Job?
Different people keep working jobs they hate for different reasons.
Some of those reasons (a minority of them) might be legit and understandable while most of them are usually pure bullshit excuses to refrain from taking action because despite hating your job, you love your security or maybe you are just bored to do anything about it.
According to Huffington Post, the 10 most common bad excuses for not quitting a job you hate are
- Things might get better (they won’t… at least not by themselves)
- If I quit, my boss wins (if you think that, your boss has already won)
- I am not a quitter (knowing when enough is enough is wisdom)
- Quitting will look bad on my CV and I’ll never get another job (this was the case 50 years ago)
- If I quit I’ll lose my status, the recognition of my peers, etc (fuck them all)
- Everywhere else is just as bad (no it’s not…)
- I’ve invested so much in this job already (bad investment, move on and learn from your mistakes)
- I’ll lose my health insurance (as said earlier, working a job you hate negatively affects your overall health in the first place)
- My job pays very well (whatever comes at the cost of your wellbeing, is simply way too expensive. You can’t pay your way out of long-term health issues caused but your job)
- My family depends on me (your family also wants you not to be miserable)
Reasons 1-7 are total rubbish. If this is where you stand then drop the bullshit and move on ASAP or else you might be stuck working your current job for the years to come.
Reasons 8-10 are kind of legit and understandable, but still, not good enough to make me keep working a job which is making me miserable.
There will always be other jobs which offer health insurance and pay well, and you can always find other sources of income to pay your bills and support your family.
What kept from quitting a job I hated was the security of knowing that at the end of the month I will have a certain amount of money deposited into my account no matter what. But mind you that I am living in a country facing a severe economic crisis where tons of large companies have closed during the last few years, jobs are extremely rare to find, people are working themselves to the bone for minimum wage and most of them might even remain unpaid for many many months.
Still, in all that chaos, I am on my way out of a job I hate (more on that shortly).
A Handful of Crappy Advice
While working a job you hate, you will inevitably come across a ton of advice either from those close to you or maybe from online sources such as this one.
Most of what you hear or read will tend to be terrible advice from people who
- have never worked a job they hated
- are too afraid to even admit that they hate their job, let alone do something about it
- have been working the same job for the last 30 years
- will tell you anything just to shut you up because they got bored and/or tired of listening for the 100th time how much you hate your job
At least this was the case for me.
Some of the most common worse advice that I received was
- Focus on the positives
- Take advantage of your weekends and free time
- It will get better
- You are lucky to even have a job. Other people can’t find one
- Just stick with it. There is no other choice if you need the money
- Everyone hates their job
Let’s debunk every single one of those crappy pieces of advice.
After that, I will let you know for real what to do if your job is killing you but you can’t afford to quit.
1 • Focus on the Positives
Such advice is exactly like telling you, “See that person over there that you don’t like? Well, focus on their positive qualities until you like them!”
As you can understand this is impossible. You either like someone or not and you definitely can’t reason your way into liking anyone… Same goes with your job and basically anything else in life.
I have said it before and I am going to say it again.
Unhating a job that you already hate is nearly impossible. Even if you manage to do it, it would require way more time and energy on your part than just finding or creating another source of income that will allow you to quit your job once and for all… And how long do you believe it would last anyway?
2 • Take Advantage of Your Weekends and Free Time
Or else, live in denial, keep being depressed for at least 1/3 of your day, 5 days a week until the sweet but short-lived salvation of the weekend comes.
Plus, if you think about it, Sunday doesn’t even count because as the time passes you become more and more depressed, knowing that in a few hours you’ll have to go back to work.
3 • It Will Get Better
How the fuck could you possibly know that?
Nothing gets better unless you do something to make it better yourself.
This is like saying that you can become healthier and fitter by sitting on your ass eating junk food all day long.
Don’t think so pal!
4 • You Are Lucky to Even Have a Job
This is one of the most common things that I have heard regarding me hating my job.
Well, I know that other people might have trouble finding a job and that I should be grateful for having one but I won’t use that fact as an excuse to stay stagnant at a job I hate.
I’d rather take a look at those who actually enjoy their jobs and try to follow their example.
Also, what if my job required me to kill other human beings, or even worse, kittens? Should I be grateful for it as well?
5 • Just Stick With It
Great! I’ll just suppress my feelings and be miserable forever… Yay!
6 • Everyone Hates Their Job
No, they don’t! More than 20% of all existing people either like or love their job.
If you play your cards the right way, you could become one of them yourself 😉
You could maybe do what I did!
Here’s What I Did!
Once I reached my enough-is-enough point, I did something that no person I have known in my life could ever do.
I created an online business, this website, which I am developing on the side of my full-time job, I started saving up some money, and after 5-6 months, I asked my manager to demote me to a part-time employee.
Working part-time is way more bearable and I can also devote a lot more time on scaling my online business.
On the other hand, deciding to go part-time was a huge risk as I knew that my monthly expenses would be more than my income so I would have to spend money out of my savings account which would eventually run out.
Also, since I am living in a country facing a severe economic crisis where jobs are extremely rare to find, I will have great trouble finding another job if needed, not to mention a better job.
So, I kinda put all my eggs into one basket which is my online business.
However, I know that I can make it work. After all, I have read tons of success stories of people who have made it work for themselves, so why not me?
Since you are here you might as well give it a try. You have literally nothing to lose.
Who knows? It might change your life forever just like it has changed mine.
So, tell us… What’s your excuse for not quitting your job? What is holding you back? What was your enough-is-enough point? Let us know in the comments below!
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Whatever the case, I will get back to you as soon as possible.
My best regards to you,
CEO & Founder at Dear Boss I Quit
Xaric started his journey to making money online back in 2016. After a lot of trial & error, he managed to build a full-time income online and he is now working from home. He founded dearboss-iquit.com in order to help as many people as possible achieve the exact same thing and he now serves more than 30.000 people per month!
You can read more about Xaric’s story here.